Dear Lisa,
I’m only 25 but I thought maybe you could help me with my single 51 year old mom. She talks about your column all the time and thinks your advice is great but she’s not doing anything to get out there and date. Every Saturday morning we have brunch and I ask her what she’s doing that night and she always sighs then says, “Oh maybe I’ll catch a movie with a friend.”
I would love to see her meet someone so she’s not alone all the time. When I ask her if she’s planning on dating (it’s been 5 years since my parents divorced) she tells me it’s too much work. She’s not that computer proficient so that might be part of the problem. Is there anything I can do to help that will get her out there and start dating? Thank you so much. Becky
How fortunate your mom is to have such a supportive daughter in her life who cares so much about her happiness! You are what I call a Dating Fairy Godmother.
I think the following 10 tips are something you can use to get your mom started in the dating world. I believe online dating—with your help—will be the easiest way for her to meet men.
So let’s get started….
1. Use your smart phone and take some great pictures of your mom where she’s smiling and looking happy. Men are most attracted to women who smile.
2. Take your mom shopping for some dating clothes and makeup that enhance her best features. Most moms haven’t thought to update their look from soccer mom to eligible bachelorette.
If you’re like my daughter, you’re probably good at making suggestions for clothing that looks both fantastic and age appropriate.
3. Prepare yourself for one of the hardest tasks that will require the most patience on your part and possibly a glass of wine for both of you. Teach her how to navigate through the pictures and profiles of the various dating sites.
4. Next, upload your mom’s pictures to the dating site she chooses. Most moms are clueless on this one so again…patience and another sip of wine will help.
5. Show your mom how to set up an email account for dating that doesn’t use her last name. She can give this to the men she’d like to communicate with outside the site.
6. Help her write a great online dating profile. When women first start dating, this can be a daunting task. It will help if you can remind her of what you think she’s good at and what you love about her.
7. Tell your mom to only use her cell number when talking to men the first time.
8. Check back in with your mom after a week or so, and encourage her to meet a new man she’s been talking to in person. As you may know from your own dating life, coffee can be a great first date. Make sure she’s given his phone number and name to someone close like you or a friend. Ask her to call that person when the dates over.
9. Ask your friends and coworkers if they know of any men your mom’s age that might make a good match.
10. If you are single yourself, take your mom to a mother-daughter Happy Hour. You never know… Both of you might meet someone interesting!
Bonus tip – tell your mom to sign up for my free teleseminar on Valentine’s Day – 9 Keys To Finding Love After 50! I’ll be giving away lots of my secrets to make dating fun and easy. Sign up here:
https://findaqualityman.com/valentines-day-social-event/
Believing in You!
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50
#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon
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#2: Join the Finding Love after 50 Facebook group
It’s our Facebook community where you can connect with me and a community of women ready to support you on your journey for finding love after 50 — Click here
#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program
I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.
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