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It happens… Your dating life is going well, but then something shifts and before long you find yourself in a huge dating rut. Maybe you’re not doing as much dating as you were, maybe your dating mojo is not working as well as it once did. Something has shifted and you’re seeing that not as many men are noticing you.

Believe it or not — it happens to everybody. I’ve heard it time and time again from my clients. I’ve also experienced it. It doesn’t feel good and the very first thing you usually do is blame yourself.

So I’ve got three ways to help you get out of your dating rut when it happens. Ready?

Step One is to realize this is not just happening to you. When we get in a dating rut, it feels like everybody else is getting dates and everybody else is in a relationship with someone. Then you start thinking that nobody else is struggling with dating, that you’re the only one.

Trust me when I tell you that’s not true. Why? Because people always show you the best part of their lives.  Think about it: has there ever been a time when something in your life wasn’t going well and you kept it hidden from your friends and maybe even your family? I see it time and time again — it happens to everyone — putting only our best selves out there for others to see.

I know. It can look and feel like everybody else is dating or in a relationship and you’re the only one who is not. But that’s really not the way it is.Be kind to yourself and know you aren’t alone feeling the way you do.

Step Two―it’s time to build your dating confidence back up. When a rut happens, it sometimes makes you feel depressed or has you doubting whether you’re even attractive to men at this age. This is the perfect time to start building your dating confidence back up and you’re going to find that as you do, it ends up touching how you feel about every aspect of your life.

Your dating confidence touches how you will get out there and attract the men you desire.  Dating confidence affects everything about how you relate to men, so it’s important that you’re really getting your dating confidence way high.  You want to get to a place of knowing that you’re the unique, magnificent, one of a kind woman you are.

Maybe you’re just starting out in the dating world. Dating can be hard, so you have to develop your dating confidence.  The way you can do this is by sitting down and writing a list of what you love about you. Because if you don’t love you first, why should a man you want in your life love you?

Think about the great qualities you’re bringing to the dating table. Perhaps the first thing you start doing each morning is to read these lists so you begin your day feeling great about you. At the same time, do some dating updating: change your hairstyle, makeup and buy a couple of outfits that make you feel very feminine and desirable.

And Step Three is that you take some type of dating action right away. If you stay home feeling sorry for yourself, your dating life is going to tank and go nowhere fast.  There comes a point where you have to do something if you really want to find the companionship you desire with a great guy.  Take classes that make you feel good, rewrite your online dating profile, post a new picture, and flirt with men online.

Use these three steps to jumpstart your dating life.  And when you have a chance drop me a note. I’d love to hear how they work for you.

 

Until next time~

Believing in You!

Lisa

P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50

#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon



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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program

I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.

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2 Comments
  1. Lisa

    My dating needed a JUMPSTART and every single point of yours was like having a loving friend or soul sister understanding me and speaking in a way that got me reinspired! Your words were just what I needed to hear. Starting with I am not alone. Everyone has ruts. 🙂
    Thank you!
    Linda

    • You are so welcome Linda. Keep me posted on how your dating life is going.
      Lots of hugs to you
      Lisa

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