Do you have to wear heels on a date as a single woman over 50???
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I first started dating when I was in my mid 40’s.
Back then; I was dressing like a suburban mom who sits in the stands watching her kids play sports.
My outfits pretty much consisted of jeans and black t-shirts.
They came from expensive stores so I thought I was the bomb.
To top my outfit off, I wore fake Birkenstocks type sandals in either black, beige or navy (colors weren’t the rage back then like they are now).
What can I say; they were cheaper than the real Birkenstocks so I splurged.
Yes, I was a real fashion maven back then. NOT!!!!!
When I was ready to date, I’d tear through my closet looking for something to wear.
I’d try on every black t-shirt I owned with my jeans and fake Birkenstocks and not one said I feel like a sexy woman excited to date.
I wasn’t getting a lot of second dates back then and I’m sure my clothes weren’t exactly helping!
It took me into my early 50’s to figure out how to go on a date feeling girly as in feeling soft and feminine.
Want to know what part of your outfit will make you feel the most girly?
Heels.
No worries, you don’t need the 6-inch variety to make you feel girly.
1-2 inch heels can make a big difference in how you feel because heels give off a totally different vibe in the way you walk and move than athletic shoes, Uggs or even some flats do.
And men love heels on women.
They think heels make you look sexy!
Let me share a quick story with you about what I mean by all of this.
A client of mine sent me her profile pictures for me to review.
In her pictures, she was wearing a slightly different version of my Soccer Mom outfit . . . jeans, a long sleeve t-shirt, and cowboy boots.
She told me men weren’t noticing her online.
Remember you have all of 10 seconds to grab a man’s attention with your picture before he moves on to someone else and that’s why it’s so important you show your best possible in any picture you post on a dating site.
My client and I worked closely together to boost her inner confidence by helping her get back in touch with how awesome she really was.
And then something amazing happened.
Her outside look began changing, as she felt better about who she was on the inside.
She restyled her hair, went to a makeup counter and tried new makeup.
She bought clothes like dresses, skirts, and heels that reflected her feminine side for the first time ever.
She also had new pictures taken and men were jumping hoops to meet her.
These pictures were totally different from the first ones I’d seen because she was feeling great about herself on the inside and the changes she made to her appearance reflected that!
Using all the dating tools I taught her, she got out there and started dating and today is happily married to an amazing man.
Ok, so back to the original question . . . do you have to wear heels on a date?
The answer is NO!
But what you do want to do is this . . . you want to feel great inside about who you are or nothing you wear will ever feel right.
Get your Inner Sexy on then wear clothes that reflect both the Inner and Outer Beautiful Sexy YOU.
When you feel girly, you come across from that softer side of you.
And as a result, as my client experienced, men will jump hoops so they can meet you!
Want to know how over 50’s men feel about dating in the second half of their life?
A man named Lee reached out to me to share his frustrations with the over 50’s dating scene.
We did an interview together that I wanted to share with you so you can see what it’s like for over 50’s men who are out there trying to find love.
Would love to hear what you think about heels and creating your inner beauty.
Just click the button below and let me know your thoughts.
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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
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3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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