Dear Lisa, Do I let him go?
Dear Lisa,
My boyfriend always brings up MY HAIR COLOR. I decided to let it go naturally grey and he’s made a few remarks. Should I appease him and color it? Most people say it’s beautiful as it is. Kay
Kay,
The question to ask yourself is how important is your hair color to you?
Do you love it?
If you do, you’ll want to find a man who loves it too.
Change something only if it’s what you want to do for you.
Otherwise, find a man who will accept you as you are.
Hi Lisa,
I am a 60 year old woman who looks 48 (so I am told). I keep fit and I am independent. I am divorced with grown children and have been struggling with online dating.
The free sites do not have the quality guys I am looking for, so I joined match.com. I get A LOT of emails, but they are either looking for a cougar, or there is no chemistry. It seems like the guys who I am interested in, (attractive, appears to be stable and has it together) write on their profiles that they are looking for women between 40 and 50 or they want someone within 20 miles.
I have opened my mind to distance, height and some other attributes, but the choices are slim. Lyn
Lyn,
Both men and women paint pictures in their head of who they think they want.
Don’t let this intimidate you.
Know why you’re a great catch.
Then if you’re interested in a man, you can get his attention by making him one of your favorites.
If you have great pictures, I guarantee a man will look at you and even contact you regardless of your age.
Try it and let me know how this works for you.
Dear Lisa,
I live in Florida, where meeting men at a pool is common. Please help me decipher the secret code of men. If a man invites me to his home for coffee and conversation, is that secret code for ‘Lets have sex’? No. It was not a first or second date. Thanks Lisa. Debbie
Debbie,
Chances are, he wasn’t inviting you to his apartment to look at his furniture.
A man will push the boundaries as far as you let him.
Next time, when a man invites you to his apartment you can say in a flirty way, “What a nice invitation but I think I’d like to go on a date with you first. What do you think?”
This sets your boundaries in a playful way without rejecting him.
If he’s interested in more than just sex, he’ll ask you out.
If he doesn’t, you know he was looking for a booty call.
Dear Lisa,
I’m in a shaky relationship with someone I feel totally in love with. He’s got many current issues right now and I know he wants some space so I feel I should give it to him. Yet I’m afraid we’ll drift apart. What do you think I should do? Kim
Kim,
I know you don’t want to lose this man but when you think about it…what do you really have with him?
You’re madly in love with him but he has issues.
Wouldn’t you rather be with someone who is as madly in love with you as you are with him?
Let him have his space because you want an emotionally healthy man who can be there for you.
It sounds like he has some work to do.
While he’s doing this, take some time to heal by nurturing yourself with activities that feed you mind, body and soul.
Then evaluate whether you want to wait for this man or look for one who you can have a whole and complete relationship with.
Here’s the link again to the Passion and Romance Live Summit. While you’re thinking about it, why don’t you take a minute to reserve your spot?
Believing in You!
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Dear Lyn, I’m in the same boat you are (don’t look my age, and certainly don’t act it) and while I think some younger men are very hot, I’m not into being a cougar either, and definitely not into the ‘nurse/purse’ act. Check out Ourtime.com as one option and look at your profile on dating sites to see if you are being as specific as you need to be about what you want. It’s ok to be assertive, and it’s ok to be picky.
wow i sure can relate to what Lyn said about the men on match… i have over 80,000 views emails likes etc but have only gone out w maybe 20 guys and only 1 more than once. the guys i mostly am interested in want a younger model ( tho they are my age) and or w/in a few miles. I am open to any location and i get great complements on my profile. Just not finding any that fit. And i try very hard to be open minded but if you dont feel it…