Anna
Your post makes me sad but I am somewhat surprised as most older men (71%) are officially overweight. Though I am a smallish person, I get something similar because I am non-White, more educated than most regionally and live in small town. Lisa is right about the niche sites; not just for larger people but also try (if in line with your values) sites for the ecologically/spiritually conscious. The standard sites really work best only for those of us that truly fall into what’s considered average in terms of height/build/education/proximity to cities/lifestyle/values. I bailed on my last mainstream site and joined an eco site a few months ago; much better and less judgmental and frankly, the men are far more attractive too.
TR
I would add another to Lisa’s list. Younger dudes frequently are not stable career and financial – wise whereas we older chix generally are.
Jeanine
Having female friends isn’t the problem. Yep, lots of us do stuff with platonic opposite friends. The problem is he doesn’t want what you want.
Lisa I totally agree with Anna.I was on a dating site and men would look at the profile and not respond.Or if they did they were so much younger than me.I was bold enough to say to one guy if you looked at the profile 6 times and never responded to my message.Finally he said I was not what he was looking for.I know I have been out of the dating scene for awhile and I also put in the profile I had a few extra pounds.Guess they want the 20 to 40 somethings.Anna was right some of them were not looking that great either.Guess I just have to keep moving on.’m 61 almost 62 and proud of who I am!
August 2, 2015 at 5:20 pm
Noquay
Anna
Your post makes me sad but I am somewhat surprised as most older men (71%) are officially overweight. Though I am a smallish person, I get something similar because I am non-White, more educated than most regionally and live in small town. Lisa is right about the niche sites; not just for larger people but also try (if in line with your values) sites for the ecologically/spiritually conscious. The standard sites really work best only for those of us that truly fall into what’s considered average in terms of height/build/education/proximity to cities/lifestyle/values. I bailed on my last mainstream site and joined an eco site a few months ago; much better and less judgmental and frankly, the men are far more attractive too.
TR
I would add another to Lisa’s list. Younger dudes frequently are not stable career and financial – wise whereas we older chix generally are.
Jeanine
Having female friends isn’t the problem. Yep, lots of us do stuff with platonic opposite friends. The problem is he doesn’t want what you want.
July 27, 2015 at 8:12 pm
Vickey
Lisa I totally agree with Anna.I was on a dating site and men would look at the profile and not respond.Or if they did they were so much younger than me.I was bold enough to say to one guy if you looked at the profile 6 times and never responded to my message.Finally he said I was not what he was looking for.I know I have been out of the dating scene for awhile and I also put in the profile I had a few extra pounds.Guess they want the 20 to 40 somethings.Anna was right some of them were not looking that great either.Guess I just have to keep moving on.’m 61 almost 62 and proud of who I am!