I think in both these cases, it is an issue of not being picky enough, or not ending it fast enough when it becomes clear that there are problems. The mommies boy type of guy is generally all that is available here. They are outta work, generally deadbeats, and were raised or learned from older men that women are their keepers. If a man does not step up to the plate, do his share of the work, make an effort, its time for him to be gone. I haev found that if a guy has no real retirement or is not making an effort to be employed, don’t even go there as this is major trouble.
The latter is clearly a boundary issue. This dude just wanted to use her for sex; that is why he very rudely blew her off when she showed she had boundaries. we all are going to meet many, many unsuitable men and some outright creepazoids; the point is to recognize them and not let em in. Lisa, you talk about dating outside your type: my type is educated, has a work ethic, takes good physical care of himself, and is financially responsible and WILL treat me with respect. I am a tad worried that “outside my type” means some of the schlubs described in todays post. Scary. Should one truly date a man you have zero attraction for because he is in poor shape, who is not intellectual when you are, is in financial trouble? I dunno.
September 18, 2013 at 12:01 am
noquay
I think in both these cases, it is an issue of not being picky enough, or not ending it fast enough when it becomes clear that there are problems. The mommies boy type of guy is generally all that is available here. They are outta work, generally deadbeats, and were raised or learned from older men that women are their keepers. If a man does not step up to the plate, do his share of the work, make an effort, its time for him to be gone. I haev found that if a guy has no real retirement or is not making an effort to be employed, don’t even go there as this is major trouble.
The latter is clearly a boundary issue. This dude just wanted to use her for sex; that is why he very rudely blew her off when she showed she had boundaries. we all are going to meet many, many unsuitable men and some outright creepazoids; the point is to recognize them and not let em in. Lisa, you talk about dating outside your type: my type is educated, has a work ethic, takes good physical care of himself, and is financially responsible and WILL treat me with respect. I am a tad worried that “outside my type” means some of the schlubs described in todays post. Scary. Should one truly date a man you have zero attraction for because he is in poor shape, who is not intellectual when you are, is in financial trouble? I dunno.