Dear Lisa, Oh What To Do About My Weight? And Matchmakers Over 50?
Dear Lisa,
I’m a big girl. I’m not unattractive, I dress nicely, I have a great, extroverted personality, I’m confident and healthy – but when you see a picture of me, you will know I’m a big girl. Online dating has only produced the usual scammers, and I assume it is because of my weight. Any suggestions? Sarah
Hi Sarah,
There are dating sites out there for women like you who are beautiful just the way you are. Here’s a link to one of those dating sites. BBWCUPID.com
Meeting men in real life would be a great option for you.
Online dating is very one dimensional, since it’s based solely on pictures.
Real life would allow men to get a glimpse of your amazing personality.
I want you to know that you can find great men in the real world.
I dive deeply into where to find these men who will adore and cherish you exactly how you are. And I show you how to flirt with them so they ask you out in Class #2 of The Fun Path to Mr. Right Dating Mentorship Group.
Once you know what to do, it’s easy to get dates with quality men both online and in the real world.
Dear Lisa,
Would like to meet someone. I do not like online dating. Would prefer a matchmaker. Where do I get matchmaker? Lucy
Lucy,
You can Google matchmakers in your area and read reviews. But…that being said, here’s the problem with using one.
Often, they do not have enough men over 50 in their data bank to fix you up with.
Women I’ve spoken with have been frustrated with the quality of men matchmakers have produced.
Recently, I came across an article that said many matchmakers are only matching men these days and are no longer taking on women as clients due to the discouraging success rate.
You can find a great guy who is a better fit for you. And I can show you exactly how to do this.
If you’re interested you can drop me a note at Lisa@findaqualityman.com.
You can find quality men on these dating sites who could be a perfect match for you. One of my favorites is Match.com.
With the right dating site and the tools and skills for finding the companionship you desire, I know you’ll find the right guy for you.
Best of luck!
Dear Lisa,
What if he seems very into you from date one and tends to rush things like wanting to see you often from the start, and he calls or texts too much… while you feel the need to go slow and get to know him at a calmer pace? More than one man for this reason dumped me in the past. Help! Maria
Maria,
There are lots of reasons men rush things. He may be on the rebound and wants a relationship. He may want to fill a void in his life. He may have an event coming up where he needs a date, he’s just lonely, or he’s really into you.
Since I do not know how you’re telling these men you want to take it slower, I can only assume what you’re saying to them may be the issue.
An emotionally healthy man will honor what you want. The secret is using words he can hear that are encouraging and at the same time suggest slowing things down so you get to know him better.
You can use something like this…
“I really enjoy our dates together. Yet, I feel uncomfortable rushing our relationship so quickly. Would it be possible to take it at a slower pace with me? I would so appreciate this.”
The key for getting what you need from a man is to put him in the position of being your hero.
Let us know how this works for you.
Dear Lisa,
I know there are people who have had successful long distance relationships with men they’ve met online. How do these work? Do you think you can really get to know someone by texting, emailing and phone calls? How do you know when you are ready for an in person visit? Jan
Dear Jan,
I discourage women from getting involved with men online who live further than a 2-4 hour car ride or an hour plane ride away.
A long distance relationship can be a fantasy relationship.
Things are perfect.
You get along great.
You chat for hours.
Then you meet and you find the chemistry is off.
This is why I encourage you to get to the meet and greet fairly quickly. Don’t spend time emailing beyond 5 emails each and up to 2 phone calls.
Otherwise you end up painting false pictures of who someone is that doesn’t match up with reality.
If someone lives within the parameters I described above where you can meet halfway for lunch or dinner fairly quickly, then go for it.
Just know you have to be able to see each other on a consistent basis to make a relationship work.
Also beware of scammers if the person lives in another country. In case you missed it, last week’s blog post covered identifying who these men are in depth. Good luck!
I’d love to hear what you think in the comments.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
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I’ll share my personal matchmaker story. First it was unbelievably expensive. I thought for this amount of money I’d be getting someone who would actually be taking the time to get to know me and find dates that were actually compatible. Sadly, this was not to be the case. Instead, I would receive a profile by email. I had to select a choice of three days times and locations from a list and had to meet the person for a totally blind date. No emailing chatting photo or any type of prior communication. It was a contract, so no way to get a refund, either. Be very very cautious. There seem to be far many more bad matchmaker companies than good ones. And no, I had no second dates. I’ve had far better success on Match.com where I control my own fate. Sad but true. Lesson learned the hard way.