Good for you Shelly for having the courage to stand up for what’s important to you. So many of us cave and give ourselves up for a man’s beliefs.
The key is trusting him and trusting yourself that you’ve chosen someone who will be honest with you. If you were going to do anything with these men, you would have already. It’s sad that some men feel they must be so territorial.
So glad you shared your story. Thank you.
January 31, 2013 at 11:46 pm
shelly
I had the same problem except mine was 61 closer to the free love generation. I choose to keep my guy friends and he walked away. It hurt but my guy friends are still there and I would not give them up for a MAYBE? I especially like your comment about protecting his territory. He actually made a comment about wanting to go mono e mono with my friend.
Shelly
January 31, 2013 at 8:59 pm
Lisa
You are so welcome Soun!
January 31, 2013 at 8:58 pm
Soun
Dear Lisa,
Thank you so much for keep sending me a few cases for me to learn. They have similor cases as me so I can learn a lot from this. I really like your advices you have provided them.
Wish you have a good day,
Soun
January 31, 2013 at 4:44 pm
Livia
Katie
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I am so glad I’m not the only one having these kinds of experiences with an older man. I agree control freak is the perfect word. It’s almost as if its his way or the highway. You’ve given me so much to think about.
I am so sorry about your divorce. Good Luck!
Livia
January 31, 2013 at 6:04 am
Katie
Livia
I would advise you to keep your radar on. I am not being nasty, mean or disrespectful of your date. Lisa is so right about the generational thing. I am only a few days from the final court date for my divorce. I am 55, he is 70. He was much like you are describing your date. I was very giving in terms of his concerns, because I understood he was from that generation (so giving that I ended giving up all my friends and spent little time with my family). Some of his issues, I am sure were generational, but, there were also issues of past affairs (which were well hidden from me by he and his family) and very serious control issues. Bear in mind here, all men are different, and I am not saying your date is prone to affairs or being a control freak, but if this does not feel right to you – it may not be. Pay attention to those feelings. It will save you much future grief. Hoping all works out for you.
February 1, 2013 at 10:12 am
Lisa
Good for you Shelly for having the courage to stand up for what’s important to you. So many of us cave and give ourselves up for a man’s beliefs.
The key is trusting him and trusting yourself that you’ve chosen someone who will be honest with you. If you were going to do anything with these men, you would have already. It’s sad that some men feel they must be so territorial.
So glad you shared your story. Thank you.
January 31, 2013 at 11:46 pm
shelly
I had the same problem except mine was 61 closer to the free love generation. I choose to keep my guy friends and he walked away. It hurt but my guy friends are still there and I would not give them up for a MAYBE? I especially like your comment about protecting his territory. He actually made a comment about wanting to go mono e mono with my friend.
Shelly
January 31, 2013 at 8:59 pm
Lisa
You are so welcome Soun!
January 31, 2013 at 8:58 pm
Soun
Dear Lisa,
Thank you so much for keep sending me a few cases for me to learn. They have similor cases as me so I can learn a lot from this. I really like your advices you have provided them.
Wish you have a good day,
Soun
January 31, 2013 at 4:44 pm
Livia
Katie
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I am so glad I’m not the only one having these kinds of experiences with an older man. I agree control freak is the perfect word. It’s almost as if its his way or the highway. You’ve given me so much to think about.
I am so sorry about your divorce. Good Luck!
Livia
January 31, 2013 at 6:04 am
Katie
Livia
I would advise you to keep your radar on. I am not being nasty, mean or disrespectful of your date. Lisa is so right about the generational thing. I am only a few days from the final court date for my divorce. I am 55, he is 70. He was much like you are describing your date. I was very giving in terms of his concerns, because I understood he was from that generation (so giving that I ended giving up all my friends and spent little time with my family). Some of his issues, I am sure were generational, but, there were also issues of past affairs (which were well hidden from me by he and his family) and very serious control issues. Bear in mind here, all men are different, and I am not saying your date is prone to affairs or being a control freak, but if this does not feel right to you – it may not be. Pay attention to those feelings. It will save you much future grief. Hoping all works out for you.