Dear Lisa: I Have a Crush, What Should I Do and What the Heck is This Man Up To?
Dear Lisa,
In your program, Understanding Men 101, you talked about how when men hear us sharing a story, they are listening for how they can solve or fix a problem we are having.
What is the best way to handle when a man tells you a problem, either personal or professional?
Say something went wrong at his job and he tells you about it. Is he asking for a solution or commiseration? What is he looking for? BK
Hi BK
Men, like women sometimes just want you to listen to what is going on in their life.
If he is looking for an opinion, he will ask you for one.
What you can do is say….I have a suggestion if it would be helpful.
If he says yes, I’d love to hear it, go for it. If he says, no, you’ll want to honor that as well.
By the way, if you just want a man to listen to what’s going on in your life, you want to preface the conversation with these words… “I need your help. It will only take 5 minutes or less. I just need to get this out.”
Keep your story short when it’s a monologue and not a discussion or you’ll loose him because he’ll have nothing to fix.
But he can listen if he knows that’s what you want and that there’s a limited amount of time involved.
Dear Lisa
I have a huge crush on my physician.
We’ve known each other about 10 years.
My husband died six months ago and he was very supportive afterwards…. asking me to let him know if there was ever anything he could do for my kids or me.
As the song says, “what started out as friendship has grown stronger”…. for me anyway.
I have no medical issues.
I have seen this man every year for routine blood work, which is always normal.
Then we talk for up to an hour about life, etc. and part ways.
We sometimes email between visits.
My situation is different now as a widow because I’m single.
How do I (should I?) move forward with this relationship? Anne
Hi Anne
This is a great question about how to approach men you’re interested in.
A quick answer: you’ll want to show him you’re interested in him by saying something like this….
“You are so easy to talk to” or “I always love talking to you. I’d love to continue this.”
I share exactly how to do this in Days 2, 3, and 4 of the FREE 7 Day Challenge Never Be Alone Again after 50. You can sign up to get a deeper answer at this link: FREE 7 Day Challenge Never Be Alone Again after 50
Dear Lisa
I started online dating looking for a long-term relationship.
I am from another country and I am not familiar with these international online dates.
How serious can a man be looking for a long distance relationship?
How long do I have to wait or not to visit him or vice versa?
And having intimacy??
I feel like I am 15 and not knowing if I should be trusting or not. Thank you. Ena
Hi Ena
The interesting thing about Online Dating is it has brought the world closer to all of us.
If you’ve ever read my book, The Winning Dating Formula For Women over 50, you’d know I met a man in Australia that did not work out.
It was a real eye opener and it caused me a lot of heartache, something I’ve seen happen to my private clients as well, before we started working together.
I wouldn’t recommend Long Distance Dating.
Long Distance Relationships are an amazing fantasy 99% of the time that does NOT pan out in real life.
I’d recommend staying within a 1 hour plane ride or a 2-4 hour drive max between the two of you.
Also, a man contacting you from a foreign country is often a setup for a SCAMMER.
In day #6 of the FREE 7 Day Never Be Alone Again after 50 Dating Challenge, I share a lot of details on how to easily identify Scammers and how to avoid being scammed by them.
You can sign up and get immediate access for this FREE 7 Day Never Be Alone Again After 50 Dating Challenge.
Dear Lisa
I found a man that seems so nice.
We have been chatting on different topics.
He wanted to meet me.
We set the meet and greet but he was a no show.
We are still talking and I would love to meet this man. Could he just be scared? Katie
Hi Katie
I understand you think this man is a nice man but…. if he was a no show…
I can pretty much guarantee he is hiding something he doesn’t want you to know like he’s married or he is a Scammer (they are notorious for never meeting)
I’d recommend you start talking with other men and let this man go.
Remember men’s actions speak louder than their words.
An emotionally healthy man would not have stood you up.
If something had come up, he would have called to let you know.
You are worth being with someone who wants to meet you and shows up.
Okay, all you amazing single women out there….I’m going to be covering topics like the ones I’ve covered here plus so much more in the Dear Lisa Blog and so much more in the FREE 7 Day Never Be Alone Again after 50 Dating Challenge.
You have until Wednesday to sign up. I know what you’ll discover in this challenge can help you find love again after 50.
So I’d recommend signing up now then watch for the link to Day #1 in your email box. Never Be Alone Again After 50 7 Day Dating Challenge.
Believing in You!
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