As a Single Woman over 50, Are You Tolerating Red Flags in Men?
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You meet a man you finally like.
He seems to have everything you’ve wanted BUT . . . red flags are showing up in the way he treats you.
You hope it’s just a one time thing due to a bad day.
Or you hope as he gets to know you, he’ll change.
(IMPORTANT TIP TO REMEMBER: Men don’t change unless they want to change)
So you keep going out with him and . . . those red flags keep popping up.
Lots of women ignore red flags and end up settling for men who don’t treat them right because they don’t want to start all over again in the dating pool.
I know beginning the dating journey again feels daunting but when red flags show up over and over again even if he is a good guy, it means you’re tolerating behavior that isn’t ok.
In today’s blog, I want to help you identify 5 Red Flags you don’t want to be dealing with in a relationship you want to take to the next level.
Red Flag #1 . . . He disappears and comes back with no good explanation.
You have 3 great dates with a man who seems to have all the qualities on your must have list.
You laugh a lot, conversation comes easily and you’re beginning to like this guy, thinking he just might be the one.
Then he disappears, showing up again 6 months later, texting you that he has missed both you and your kisses but can’t seem to explain why he went AWOL.
If he was into you . . . he would have texted you during his hiatus.
After all, there is a popular gadget called a smartphone that can text and dial phone numbers from the contact list quite well from anywhere in the world.
A man would never tolerate this type of behavior from a woman nor should you from a man unless he tells you what happened in those 6 months . . . exactly why he went AWOL and why he’s back.
Red Flag #2 . . . You’ve been dating for a while and he’s always texting you last minute for a date
Ok, once in a while this is ok but if it’s always happening, it’s a huge red flag.
He needs to man up and call you for a date.
Texting is impersonal and keeps you at arm’s distance.
A man who is into you wants to hear your voice and connect with you on a regular basis.
Red Flag #3 . . . He’s always working or with his grandchildren.
If you have grandchildren, you know what a blessing they can be but there is a life beyond these cute kids and if a man wants a relationship with you, he’ll do what it takes to create the space and the balance in his life so he can see you.
If he doesn’t, he’s not into you.
BTW . . . Same goes for a man who lets work be his mistress.
Red Flag #4 . . . He introduces you as “my friend.”
If a man is into you, he wants the world to know it.
He’s proud to have you on his arm and he’ll excitedly introduce you as this great girl he’s just met or if you’ve dated a while, as his girlfriend.
If he introduces you as a friend, he sees you as his friend and that’s not likely to change.
He’s not into you and you’ll want to move on to someone who is.
Red Flag #5 . . . He always wants the date to happen at either your place or his place instead of going out
This is about a booty call.
The man is physically attracted to you and can literally charm the pants off of you.
He’s always using words that lead you to believe he’s into you.
He likes you but his mission is to get you into bed and that’s why he’ll always suggest intimate dinners at your place or his.
Then he disappears until he’s feeling the physical need again.
That’s when he’ll be back for “more” on his terms.
The problem is . . . when a woman has sex with a man, oxytocin is released and she can stay bonded with him for up to 3 weeks.
For him . . . he’ll feel bonded maybe 30 minutes to an hour.
You have the potential to get hurt from this type of relationship because chances are he’s just not into you the same way you’re into him.
A man who is into you wants to make you happy and will do everything he can to make you feel loved, cherished and adored.
You’ll never have to guess with him.
Keep your eyes open for these red flags.
From time to time, red flags happen but if they continue to show up, you might want to think about moving on to a man who wants to be your guy.
It is possible to meet your perfect match!
When I met you Lisa and began your “Love after 50” group program, I was 73 years old, over 6 feet tall and had not dated in many, many years. I saw these all as real obstacles to finding a relationship. To my amazement, the man I found, while working with you, in addition to having every single quality I was looking for in a partner, saw these as assets! I believe that we found each other because of your guidance helping me get really clear on who I wanted, fine-tuning my profile to reflect that vision along with having access to all of the tools you’ve created for this program and most importantly, your personal guidance. Unsure and very hesitant to start dating again, Lisa, you were my perfect match for making this happen in my life!
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