Great column Lisa. My reply is directed to your female readers. I am a 63-year old man, decent looking, smart and successful. I always tailor my messages when contacting women on Match or Our Time to show I actually read their profile. Still, few acknowledge my notes or respond. I got to thinking, they must be holding out for their idealized version of a man. I would remind them that the guy you covet is probably looking for someone 10-15 years younger than you. There are plenty of quality men in your age range who may not “float your boat” but still have much to offer. Attraction can grow, so open yourselves to more possibilities and you may spend fewer Saturday nights alone.
June 25, 2018 at 11:20 am
Lisa
Thank you Brendan for your thoughts. Dating has become difficult for both sexes with online dating being like a candy store. Again so appreciate you taking the time to write. I hope women view your comments and see what they are missing from the male perspective.
June 20, 2018 at 7:09 pm
Sonja
I’m 50, but many credible people have told me I could pass for late 30s. The difference between different men at my age us extreme. I’m not looking for a 20-something jock. I was never interested in those guys anyway. But I am looking for a guy who takes care of himself and is vibrant, energetic and passionate about life. Those mrn don’t look like you’re description. I’m not going to compromise on that.
June 21, 2018 at 11:50 am
Lisa
Get really clear on the values that are important to you along with the qualities you want and your deal breakers. For you, a couch potato might be a deal breaker. You don’t have to compromise when you have a very clear vision of the man who is right for you. Do this with all my clients when we create a Quality Man Template. This tool is like an order to the Universe that this is what you want and magically, they start showing up. A clear vision makes a huge difference in the dating game.
June 20, 2018 at 6:31 pm
50something
Sounds to me like you’re just telling women over 50 to just settle for w hat they can get! Why should we? I don’t want no bump on a log with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. I need a man who can keep up with me! Men get to have whatever they want when they dao, even younger women…so why shouldn’t we women get what we want? 🙁
June 21, 2018 at 11:47 am
Lisa
When I work with clients, we create a Quality Man Template that focuses on exactly who they want. Sometimes a guy who has everything on their template is cute but the chemistry is missing. Because he had everything, they gave the man a chance since he was cute and he was really nice. As they got to know each other, the chemistry developed and my clients found themselves in great relationships that had everything they wanted. You never want to settle!
June 21, 2018 at 4:19 pm
Brendan
Great column Lisa. My reply is directed to your female readers. I am a 63-year old man, decent looking, smart and successful. I always tailor my messages when contacting women on Match or Our Time to show I actually read their profile. Still, few acknowledge my notes or respond. I got to thinking, they must be holding out for their idealized version of a man. I would remind them that the guy you covet is probably looking for someone 10-15 years younger than you. There are plenty of quality men in your age range who may not “float your boat” but still have much to offer. Attraction can grow, so open yourselves to more possibilities and you may spend fewer Saturday nights alone.
June 25, 2018 at 11:20 am
Lisa
Thank you Brendan for your thoughts. Dating has become difficult for both sexes with online dating being like a candy store. Again so appreciate you taking the time to write. I hope women view your comments and see what they are missing from the male perspective.
June 20, 2018 at 7:09 pm
Sonja
I’m 50, but many credible people have told me I could pass for late 30s. The difference between different men at my age us extreme. I’m not looking for a 20-something jock. I was never interested in those guys anyway. But I am looking for a guy who takes care of himself and is vibrant, energetic and passionate about life. Those mrn don’t look like you’re description. I’m not going to compromise on that.
June 21, 2018 at 11:50 am
Lisa
Get really clear on the values that are important to you along with the qualities you want and your deal breakers. For you, a couch potato might be a deal breaker. You don’t have to compromise when you have a very clear vision of the man who is right for you. Do this with all my clients when we create a Quality Man Template. This tool is like an order to the Universe that this is what you want and magically, they start showing up. A clear vision makes a huge difference in the dating game.
June 20, 2018 at 6:31 pm
50something
Sounds to me like you’re just telling women over 50 to just settle for w hat they can get! Why should we? I don’t want no bump on a log with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. I need a man who can keep up with me! Men get to have whatever they want when they dao, even younger women…so why shouldn’t we women get what we want? 🙁
June 21, 2018 at 11:47 am
Lisa
When I work with clients, we create a Quality Man Template that focuses on exactly who they want. Sometimes a guy who has everything on their template is cute but the chemistry is missing. Because he had everything, they gave the man a chance since he was cute and he was really nice. As they got to know each other, the chemistry developed and my clients found themselves in great relationships that had everything they wanted. You never want to settle!