Good post Lisa. We older chix often fall into this hole. Some of it is just plain exhaustion with the dating world. After frog upon frog, you just don’t want to get out there anymore. Plus you become used to and enjoy being treated with affection and kindness. However, basic incompatibility of lifestyle pretty much dooms any relationship. The widower I am currently seeing is a fellow athlete, is financially stable (most older men in this region aren’t). However, he is conservative, I am a proud Socialist. He lives a more conventional life, whereas I run a small farm, build stuff, cut wood. He offers to help with chores though he is not sure how and treats me like a Queen when here. He spends a coupla months in Florida every winter and I am OK with that. He doesn’t call or text as much as I like but maybe older men do not. I just sit back and let things unfold and haven’t become too attached, like the woman you describe.
November 16, 2015 at 10:48 pm
Jason
Striking.
However my gal went through this after a stunning passionate 18 mos with me, for the old flame found someone new and it derailed US. I was a qualified ‘quality man’ and we were intimate wonderfully nearly throughout, but this Alpha, a 3+ year breakup-reconnect relationship – who she claimed she had platonic dinners with intermittently while going with me – threw her into anxiety with his firm adios.
I’m older and seasoned, but still crushed. No wonder men give up or go younger. For women, their ‘hotties’ rule their lives going forward not far below the surface. Guys beware, ask a lot of questions before giving up your heart.
November 17, 2015 at 7:22 am
Noquay
Good post Lisa. We older chix often fall into this hole. Some of it is just plain exhaustion with the dating world. After frog upon frog, you just don’t want to get out there anymore. Plus you become used to and enjoy being treated with affection and kindness. However, basic incompatibility of lifestyle pretty much dooms any relationship. The widower I am currently seeing is a fellow athlete, is financially stable (most older men in this region aren’t). However, he is conservative, I am a proud Socialist. He lives a more conventional life, whereas I run a small farm, build stuff, cut wood. He offers to help with chores though he is not sure how and treats me like a Queen when here. He spends a coupla months in Florida every winter and I am OK with that. He doesn’t call or text as much as I like but maybe older men do not. I just sit back and let things unfold and haven’t become too attached, like the woman you describe.
November 16, 2015 at 10:48 pm
Jason
Striking.
However my gal went through this after a stunning passionate 18 mos with me, for the old flame found someone new and it derailed US. I was a qualified ‘quality man’ and we were intimate wonderfully nearly throughout, but this Alpha, a 3+ year breakup-reconnect relationship – who she claimed she had platonic dinners with intermittently while going with me – threw her into anxiety with his firm adios.
I’m older and seasoned, but still crushed. No wonder men give up or go younger. For women, their ‘hotties’ rule their lives going forward not far below the surface. Guys beware, ask a lot of questions before giving up your heart.