Ha, this seems to happen all the time around me! I have already given up hope ever to find a partner again but feel sorry for my friends who experience heartbreaks all the time.
Thank you for this post – I shared it with my friends <3
Alli
July 25, 2017 at 11:59 am
Lisa
I’m sorry to hear you’ve given up Alli. There are lots of really good men out there who want a relationship with you. Watch for a 5 Day Success Challenge I’m offering later this week. I feel it can help you make some mindset shifts that could get you out there dating again.
Hugs~
July 21, 2017 at 2:02 pm
Marilyn
I dunno, Lisa…the one time I WAS ghosted was by a guy with whom I had DOZENS of mutual friends/acquaintances. I had seen him & chatted with him for months before we started dating. We went out for about 3 months. Then one weekend he stood me up, would not answer my text and FB messages (then blocked me) and went around telling our friends that it was MY fault although he refused to say why. After a short while, he graduated to stalking me via text message, telling me not to go to any event in our group or he would have me arrested for stalking HIM. He said everybody would side with him, because he was such a “great guy” – and he was right. This went on for 6 months. It took a long time til the truth about him came out and people began to welcome me back into the fold.
July 25, 2017 at 12:00 pm
Lisa
Hi Marilyn…that’s a tough situation to be in. I’m glad that your friends saw the light about this guy. Just curious what attracted you to him? Did he show signs of being off while you were dating? Hugs~
July 19, 2017 at 6:38 pm
PJ
As a man who has not had a sex partner in 14 years, I can understand the desire to hop into bed together at the first opportunity, but I have also experienced relationships end almost immediately after the first sex. Maybe I am weird, but the best part of sex to me is cuddling together after the sex act (an activity that does not happen until after safety and the relationship have had time to develop). To me sex before safety and the relationship have developed speaks poorly of both the man and woman and signifies lack of personal integrity (a quality required for a long term relationship).
Ghosting was standard hiring practice at the Boeing Corporation. After months of pre-interview forms and the high pressure Boeing interview; if Boeing was not giving you an offer, you never heard from them again. The “legal argument” was to prevent hiring discrimination law suits. As a hiring candidate, the ghosting represented lack of corporate integrity and corporate professionalism by the Boeing Corporation.
FWB sex is acceptable provided both persons agree to FWB sex days before the sex act. By definition there is no ghosting following FWB sex.
There should never be ghosting in a relationship. Relationship closure is/was a society accepted norm. I still firmly believe in relationship closure.
July 25, 2017 at 12:01 pm
Lisa
Nice to hear from a man who loves cuddling. Hope you find that special woman who will appreciate this awesome quality in you PJ. Hugs~
July 19, 2017 at 5:16 pm
Sara
HA! I was ghosted 2 weekends ago. Made an connection online with the “perfect on paper” guy. We met for drinks then moved on to dinner, thoroughly enjoying each other’s company for a total of about 4 hours – great first date. When our time together wrapped up, he said to me “let’s do this again soon”. I said I’d like that. We then parted company, and just after I got home a text came from him asking if I’d gotten home safely (I replied yes, thanks for asking), and he again said let’s get together again soon. I’m thinking this great guy is really into me and I am so excited, because I am into him too! Two weeks have passed – not so much as a peep from him. Why can’t a guy simply say “I had a nice evening with you, thank you” and leave it at that?
July 19, 2017 at 5:44 pm
Lisa
Hi Sara…you can always text a guy a couple of days after a date and say….Hope you are having a great week. Or if its hot where you live…hope you’re staying cool. Men do need encouragement to ask you out again. This will do that. If he doesn’t respond this time, I’d say bye-bye and move on.
Guys on paper are who they want to be not necessarily who they are. Keep dating. It really is a numbers game. Hugs~
Alli
Ha, this seems to happen all the time around me! I have already given up hope ever to find a partner again but feel sorry for my friends who experience heartbreaks all the time.
Thank you for this post – I shared it with my friends <3
Alli
Lisa
I’m sorry to hear you’ve given up Alli. There are lots of really good men out there who want a relationship with you. Watch for a 5 Day Success Challenge I’m offering later this week. I feel it can help you make some mindset shifts that could get you out there dating again.
Hugs~
Marilyn
I dunno, Lisa…the one time I WAS ghosted was by a guy with whom I had DOZENS of mutual friends/acquaintances. I had seen him & chatted with him for months before we started dating. We went out for about 3 months. Then one weekend he stood me up, would not answer my text and FB messages (then blocked me) and went around telling our friends that it was MY fault although he refused to say why. After a short while, he graduated to stalking me via text message, telling me not to go to any event in our group or he would have me arrested for stalking HIM. He said everybody would side with him, because he was such a “great guy” – and he was right. This went on for 6 months. It took a long time til the truth about him came out and people began to welcome me back into the fold.
Lisa
Hi Marilyn…that’s a tough situation to be in. I’m glad that your friends saw the light about this guy. Just curious what attracted you to him? Did he show signs of being off while you were dating? Hugs~
PJ
As a man who has not had a sex partner in 14 years, I can understand the desire to hop into bed together at the first opportunity, but I have also experienced relationships end almost immediately after the first sex. Maybe I am weird, but the best part of sex to me is cuddling together after the sex act (an activity that does not happen until after safety and the relationship have had time to develop). To me sex before safety and the relationship have developed speaks poorly of both the man and woman and signifies lack of personal integrity (a quality required for a long term relationship).
Ghosting was standard hiring practice at the Boeing Corporation. After months of pre-interview forms and the high pressure Boeing interview; if Boeing was not giving you an offer, you never heard from them again. The “legal argument” was to prevent hiring discrimination law suits. As a hiring candidate, the ghosting represented lack of corporate integrity and corporate professionalism by the Boeing Corporation.
FWB sex is acceptable provided both persons agree to FWB sex days before the sex act. By definition there is no ghosting following FWB sex.
There should never be ghosting in a relationship. Relationship closure is/was a society accepted norm. I still firmly believe in relationship closure.
Lisa
Nice to hear from a man who loves cuddling. Hope you find that special woman who will appreciate this awesome quality in you PJ. Hugs~
Sara
HA! I was ghosted 2 weekends ago. Made an connection online with the “perfect on paper” guy. We met for drinks then moved on to dinner, thoroughly enjoying each other’s company for a total of about 4 hours – great first date. When our time together wrapped up, he said to me “let’s do this again soon”. I said I’d like that. We then parted company, and just after I got home a text came from him asking if I’d gotten home safely (I replied yes, thanks for asking), and he again said let’s get together again soon. I’m thinking this great guy is really into me and I am so excited, because I am into him too! Two weeks have passed – not so much as a peep from him. Why can’t a guy simply say “I had a nice evening with you, thank you” and leave it at that?
Lisa
Hi Sara…you can always text a guy a couple of days after a date and say….Hope you are having a great week. Or if its hot where you live…hope you’re staying cool. Men do need encouragement to ask you out again. This will do that. If he doesn’t respond this time, I’d say bye-bye and move on.
Guys on paper are who they want to be not necessarily who they are. Keep dating. It really is a numbers game. Hugs~