What makes a good guy for me is treating me with respect, having manners, addiction free, being educated and using that education to move ahead in life, and being attractive to me which yep, includes being healthy and in shape. Just had a guy fly halfway across the country and it didn’t work out mainly because he grossly overstated his fitness level. Not only was I unable to force myself to be attracted, he got severe altitude sickness. Mountain life is not for the out of shape. We were able to go places and sit around; that was it. I am a serious athlete, not a sitting down person. The lives of very active and health conscious folk and those that are neither are not very compatible.
Still paying off debts incurred from 18 years of caretaking my late father who was a poster child of what happens when you don’t take care of yourself. A dozen surgeries, a coupla hospital acquired infections, falls, two heart attacks, three collapses in his home, stuff not taken care of because he was running on a quarter of normal cardiac capacity. This is the prognosis for many guys with bellies, women too unfortunately. Not fat bashing, just stating medical fact. Watching someone you love slowly die is not pretty, especially when the cause is totally preventable. Fortunately, I had sufficient income to help out, get folks to check on him and a flexible work schedule to drive him to/from surgeries, appointments, dialysis etc. Most women aren’t so fortunate. I want a partner that’ll be around and be vital, most women do I’d suspect. Currently seeing a widower 14 years older. Our politics lie on opposite ends of the spectrum but he respects my intellect, treats me like a queen when here, and is a top distance runner in his age group. Does something active every day. It may not work out as it’s tricky with widowers, we may have some major issues with points of view, but we can do things together.
October 30, 2015 at 6:33 pm
Noquay
What makes a good guy for me is treating me with respect, having manners, addiction free, being educated and using that education to move ahead in life, and being attractive to me which yep, includes being healthy and in shape. Just had a guy fly halfway across the country and it didn’t work out mainly because he grossly overstated his fitness level. Not only was I unable to force myself to be attracted, he got severe altitude sickness. Mountain life is not for the out of shape. We were able to go places and sit around; that was it. I am a serious athlete, not a sitting down person. The lives of very active and health conscious folk and those that are neither are not very compatible.
Still paying off debts incurred from 18 years of caretaking my late father who was a poster child of what happens when you don’t take care of yourself. A dozen surgeries, a coupla hospital acquired infections, falls, two heart attacks, three collapses in his home, stuff not taken care of because he was running on a quarter of normal cardiac capacity. This is the prognosis for many guys with bellies, women too unfortunately. Not fat bashing, just stating medical fact. Watching someone you love slowly die is not pretty, especially when the cause is totally preventable. Fortunately, I had sufficient income to help out, get folks to check on him and a flexible work schedule to drive him to/from surgeries, appointments, dialysis etc. Most women aren’t so fortunate. I want a partner that’ll be around and be vital, most women do I’d suspect. Currently seeing a widower 14 years older. Our politics lie on opposite ends of the spectrum but he respects my intellect, treats me like a queen when here, and is a top distance runner in his age group. Does something active every day. It may not work out as it’s tricky with widowers, we may have some major issues with points of view, but we can do things together.