1. Proactively troll the site; if there’s no one that appeals to you in your region, move on to another. Some sites will be unsuitable for you, don’t waste money on these.
2. Be on a mixture of freebie and paid sites. Keep in mind that the freebies will have a greater percentage of creepazoids, marrieds, and flakes because there is no financial investment.
3. You will get a good many guys that are totally unsuitable. Why? They’re looking at your photos and ignoring the profile completely.
4. If you meet someone and it feels off, it is. Don’t overanalyze, just listen to your gut.
5. Still meet men IRL. Some of us women, particularly us highly educated babes will not find an equal or close to it on line. It is what it is. Use on line to sharpen your social skills for IRL.
6. Don’t take it seriously; most men you encounter won’t be suitable and that’s OK.
7. If a man doesn’t want to meet right away, move on. On line isn’t for pen pals. If they’re taking their time; it’s generally because they’re hiding something such as 50 extra pounds, major health/emotional issues, or a wife. Email a few times, talk on the phone once (to check on the creepazoid factor) then meet.
8. Be yourself. If he doesn’t like that, better to find out now.
9. For us rural chix; be cautious about on liners from your small town. Find out about them through friends, acquaintances first before even contacting them. In a small town, its too easy to find out where you work and live; you don’t want a problem on your doorstep.
10. Rural chix; when he says he wants someone who lives within a certain radius of his urban metastasis, he means it. Move on.
11. Read the fine print of the subscription form carefully; it is really hard to get out of some of the paid sites. eHarmony is one of the worst. After first trying to mate me off to uneducated, out of shape men in the nearest city even though the three hundred questions I answered makes it clear I am a PhD and athlete and looking for someone similar, now they’re trying to mate me off unsuitable men in British Columbia waay beyond my 150 mile specified area. I am paying for this privilege until April. As they are clearly geographically challenged, I sent them a map with clear instructions. Remember, while you might find someone on line, the site is there not to ensure your happiness, but to make a profit and it will get as much out of you as is possible. Capitalism at work.
12. Know what it is you are looking for BEFORE going on line. We’re older, we know by this time what works and what doesnt. Kids/no kids, pets/no pets, casual/serious/marriage. You cannot change others, if their goals differ, move on. Stick to your guns.
December 27, 2013 at 9:30 am
noquay
1. Proactively troll the site; if there’s no one that appeals to you in your region, move on to another. Some sites will be unsuitable for you, don’t waste money on these.
2. Be on a mixture of freebie and paid sites. Keep in mind that the freebies will have a greater percentage of creepazoids, marrieds, and flakes because there is no financial investment.
3. You will get a good many guys that are totally unsuitable. Why? They’re looking at your photos and ignoring the profile completely.
4. If you meet someone and it feels off, it is. Don’t overanalyze, just listen to your gut.
5. Still meet men IRL. Some of us women, particularly us highly educated babes will not find an equal or close to it on line. It is what it is. Use on line to sharpen your social skills for IRL.
6. Don’t take it seriously; most men you encounter won’t be suitable and that’s OK.
7. If a man doesn’t want to meet right away, move on. On line isn’t for pen pals. If they’re taking their time; it’s generally because they’re hiding something such as 50 extra pounds, major health/emotional issues, or a wife. Email a few times, talk on the phone once (to check on the creepazoid factor) then meet.
8. Be yourself. If he doesn’t like that, better to find out now.
9. For us rural chix; be cautious about on liners from your small town. Find out about them through friends, acquaintances first before even contacting them. In a small town, its too easy to find out where you work and live; you don’t want a problem on your doorstep.
10. Rural chix; when he says he wants someone who lives within a certain radius of his urban metastasis, he means it. Move on.
11. Read the fine print of the subscription form carefully; it is really hard to get out of some of the paid sites. eHarmony is one of the worst. After first trying to mate me off to uneducated, out of shape men in the nearest city even though the three hundred questions I answered makes it clear I am a PhD and athlete and looking for someone similar, now they’re trying to mate me off unsuitable men in British Columbia waay beyond my 150 mile specified area. I am paying for this privilege until April. As they are clearly geographically challenged, I sent them a map with clear instructions. Remember, while you might find someone on line, the site is there not to ensure your happiness, but to make a profit and it will get as much out of you as is possible. Capitalism at work.
12. Know what it is you are looking for BEFORE going on line. We’re older, we know by this time what works and what doesnt. Kids/no kids, pets/no pets, casual/serious/marriage. You cannot change others, if their goals differ, move on. Stick to your guns.