5 Tips For Getting Quality Men Over 50 To Ask You Out
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You see an attractive man when you’re out and about and you’d like to get him to notice you.
But what do you do?
Here’s a secret about men . . . They need encouragement to know it’s safe to approach you.
Here are 5 tips certain to let him know you’re interested.
Tip #1
Smile at a man you’re attracted to and make eye contact with him for five seconds.
Yes, FIVE FULL SECONDS…. It will seem like an eternity but it’s a signal to him that you’re interested.
Tip #2
Get his attention by asking him a question.
Remember men are wired to help women.
Here are examples of questions you can ask to get the dialogue going between the two of you . . .
- You’re at happy hour with a friend and a man sits next to you and orders red wine. Ask him about it and whether or not he’d recommend it.
- You’re at Starbucks. Ask if the chair next to a nice looking man is taken. Or if you’re in line, ask what his favorite coffee is.
- You’re at a dog park. Ask a man you might be interested in about his dog’s veterinarian, or about a toy his dog likes and what he’d recommend.
You get the drift here . . . questions start conversations that can potentially lead somewhere.
Tip #3
Listen to what a man is really saying to you. Men do speak another language that women don’t necessarily hear or understand.
Here’s what I mean.
My client Heidi was sitting at a bar having dinner with her friend.
They struck up a conversation with a man who walked in the door and sat down next to them.
It was her friend who asked when he was served – the question, “What salad is that?” and the conversation between the three of them took off.
When her friend left, Heidi and this attractive man from out of town continued talking.
Over and over again he shared with her that he wasn’t locked into where he lived and that he’d seriously dated women from cities other than the one he lived in.
She totally missed his male language hint for, “are you interested in dating me even though I live out of town?” ultimately losing out on an opportunity to date a man she was attracted to.
Start paying attention to verbal signals men give off.
Tip #4-
To this day, one of my favorite television shows is still I Love Lucy.
Love the episode where Lucy and Ethel go to Charm School but that’s for another day and another blog.
Now, just to give you a little background . . . Back in the day a woman would drop her handkerchief in front of a man to let him know she was interested in him.
In one of the I Love Lucy episodes, Lucy was dressed in a disguise and was pretending to be another woman.
She wanted to see if Ricky would flirt with her.
So she dropped her handkerchief and said, “Pardon me,” fully expecting him to pick it up for her. Both understood this was a sign she was interested and he could approach her if the attraction was mutual and he did.
You can do the same thing with men today.
Instead of using a handkerchief, try dropping your phone if it won’t shatter or a folder or package you might be carrying.
Who knows what it might lead to!
Tip #5
Your job is to let him know you’re interested in having him approach you.
His job is to ask you out if he’s interested in you.
If he’s not, it doesn’t mean he’s personally rejecting you.
He might be married, have a girlfriend or you might not be his type.
Just move on… There are plenty of other men out there.
Chalk the experience up as an opportunity to practice your flirting skills.
These five tips will give you the opportunity to interact with a lot of men and you never know, one just might turn out to be your Mr. Right.
I’d have MISSED a great guy if I’d used this quality to decide if he’s the one
Lisa, If I hadn’t memorized your advice to wait a few dates and NOT look for an immediate spark, (he’s 5’9” to my 6”, bald, overweight- as am I), I would not have had the opportunity to be walked to my car, asked politely to be kissed (the man has seriously good skills), and the fun and excitement of making out like teenagers for a few dates.
Thanks to what I learned from you, I have found the love of my life. He calls me his Nordic Goddess. I feel so cherished and feel so lucky we found each other. Oh, and he’s been so there for me as I’ve gone through a rough knee replacement. He rose to the occasion, impressing me and my kids. They are now all team Mark! Just can’t thank you enough for all your support.
Would you love having a good man in your life like Ginny now has?
Imagine . . . no more searching for Mr. Right.
No more wondering where can I find him?
And waking up every morning with that love and sweetness in your life.
If this sounds amazing, just click here and let’s set up a time to talk and see how we can make this happen for you.
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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