5 Dating Myths That Can Hold You Back From Finding Love after 50
Ever wonder why your dating life isn’t heading in the direction you’d like to see it go….getting the guy?
What might be getting in your way are the beliefs about men or dating that you’re holding onto without realizing it.
I want to share the biggest 5 I see continually affecting women’s love lives.
Myth #1-A Man Is Going To Be Your Best Friend
Let’s get really clear about this…
Communication with a man isn’t the same as it is with your girlfriends.
Emotionally healthy men will be your best friend by keeping you safe, protected and provided for.
He will do his best to fix anything that makes your life easier for you.
But he’s not going to get involved in long conversations about things he has no interest in.
When you share involved and complicated stories about your friend’s and their families, a man can’t keep track of the point you are trying to make.
Unless it’s about you and taking care of you in some way, his eyes will glaze over.
This is why it’s so important to have girlfriends who will happily process any story with you over your favorite martini or glass of wine.
Myth #2-You’ll Just Know He’s “The One” When You Meet Him
This rarely happens.
Yes, you’ll hear stories about women who’ve said they just knew he was the one when they met their husbands.
What you’re not hearing are the stories about women who thought they’d found the one but after some time passed found him to be NOT even remotely close to who they wanted to spend the rest of their life with.
It’s super easy to get caught up in the fantasy and romantic side of dating.
How many times has a Hallmark movie shown a man and a woman locking eyes across the room with the fireworks between them going off like it was the 4th of July?
That type of initial chemistry is a hormonal zing between the two of you.
You can have those zings with lots of men but it doesn’t mean they’re the right one for you.
It’s why you want to give nice men a chance.
You’ll be surprised how over time the zing can grow.
Myth #3- You’re His Girlfriend After 3 Dates
Want to know how you know if and when you’re a man’s girlfriend?
Simple!
He’ll introduce you to everyone as his girlfriend.
If he says this is my friend, then you know exactly how he’s placed you in his life.
Take the time to carefully listen to a man words because I gotta tell you….men say exactly what they mean!
Myth #4- Men Love The Makeovers You Give Them
NOT!!!!!!
One of men’s biggest pet peeves is about women who are always trying to change them whether it’s the clothes they wear, the food they eat or how they do their job.
One of the coolest things about emotionally healthy men is they love you exactly how you are.
That’s because men fall in love with the reality of you and women fall in love with men’s potential.
If you don’t like who a man is then let him go and move on to a man you do like.
Myth #5- He Wants to Know Your Every Wish and Make It Come True
I can’t tell you the number of times men who’ve shown me women’s profiles and said, “Lisa, what are these women thinking? Their profiles are filled with demands of how I should act, what I should make and the job I should have.”
I know you’re trying to express what you want so the wrong men stay away but what you’re doing is turning men off.
They don’t like being told what to do by women they know much less by women they haven’t met.
I wanted to mention why.
How would it feel to have an amazing group of women to turn to who are on the same journey as you and are there to support you through the dating ups and downs we’ve all experienced navigating the finding love after 50 journey?
If this sounds like you, I’d like to invite you to join my Find Love After 50 Facebook group.
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Look forward to seeing you there.
For those in the US, have a very Happy Thanksgiving.
Believing in You!
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50
#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon
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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program
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This article is awesome. I am a man and definitely not interested in a long story about something I do not care about. Not interested in a woman trying to change me, but accept me for what I am.
As for myth 5, I 1000% agree. Many women don’t understand they are turning away many good men with their unrealistic profiles in what they want in a man. That be like me saying I want a young super hot, smart and rich woman who will do whatever needed to be with me. It is good to have expectations, but it needs to be realistic.
Thank you Jerry. I loved what you wrote: “That be like me saying I want a young super hot, smart and rich woman who will do whatever needed to be with me. It is good to have expectations, but it needs to be realistic.” Very powerful for women to see what its like to be in a man’s shoes. Thank you so much for sharing.