Hi Lisa,
I want to be cherished and taken care of but men see me as Alpha and quite capable of taking care of myself. I never had a choice as no man ever offered. I finally have met a beta male, who accepted me( good and bad) and doesn’t expect me to look like a trophy constantly. But he is not a provider in the sense that he seems to not have the drive and ambition. I want to live a five star life but he is a 3 star or less kind of guy. He nourishes my soul but could not support us if something happened to me. Unless I lower my standards. I like that I don’t have to put on airs but am concerned that he just isn’t my match! Goodness knows, he cherishes me and would be there in hard times. Why am I waffling! Is that worth more than the mortgage?
RJ
April 1, 2014 at 2:07 pm
Lisa
RJ….why do you consider this man to be only 3 stars? Is it because he doesn’t bring in the money? It’s important to get clear on what you really want in a man. When you list qualities is money number 1 or is being loved and cherished for who you are the most important to you? Our society has taught us money is it but money doesn’t buy many of the things you seem to have with this man. If you love him and he loves you and if your relationship works the way it is, he’s probably a keeper once you can accept that he’s not the main provider.
March 31, 2014 at 7:34 pm
Rene
Hi Lisa,
I want to be cherished and taken care of but men see me as Alpha and quite capable of taking care of myself. I never had a choice as no man ever offered. I finally have met a beta male, who accepted me( good and bad) and doesn’t expect me to look like a trophy constantly. But he is not a provider in the sense that he seems to not have the drive and ambition. I want to live a five star life but he is a 3 star or less kind of guy. He nourishes my soul but could not support us if something happened to me. Unless I lower my standards. I like that I don’t have to put on airs but am concerned that he just isn’t my match! Goodness knows, he cherishes me and would be there in hard times. Why am I waffling! Is that worth more than the mortgage?
RJ
April 1, 2014 at 2:07 pm
Lisa
RJ….why do you consider this man to be only 3 stars? Is it because he doesn’t bring in the money? It’s important to get clear on what you really want in a man. When you list qualities is money number 1 or is being loved and cherished for who you are the most important to you? Our society has taught us money is it but money doesn’t buy many of the things you seem to have with this man. If you love him and he loves you and if your relationship works the way it is, he’s probably a keeper once you can accept that he’s not the main provider.