5 Dangerous Trends Women Over 50 Face That Keep Them Alone
Trend #1: Losing Your Spark
One of the scariest things about dating, especially after 50, is having to worry about how members of the opposite sex will perceive you, especially when you’re comparing yourself to the person you were when you were 20.
Thankfully, you aren’t going to be dating a 20-year-old man. It’s more likely you’ll be dating someone closer to your age who, like you, is worried he may not measure up.
One of the greatest gifts you as a single, mature woman can give yourself is to find passion in your life again. Whether it’s a new hobby, your grandchildren or your home or job, finding your passion will absolutely light you up.
It’s your excitement and your joy about life that makes you the most appealing to the men you want to meet.
Trend #2: Dating An Alpha Male When You Are An Alpha Female
The Alpha in a relationship wants to be respected and the Beta wants to be cherished. There can be only one of each in your relationship. Why? Imagine two Alphas living together. This would create a competitive game about who is in charge that no one could win.
And two Betas? No one is taking charge, so nothing gets done. Your job is figuring out who you are. Once you do, you’ll be able to determine who the best man will be for you.
Trend #3: Dating The Same Type Of Man Over And Over Again
You probably have a certain type of man you like dating. And you date him not because he’s the right man for you but because “his type” probably feels the most comfortable and safe for you to be with.
Take a look at all the men you’ve dated and been in relationships with… along with why you were attracted to him and why the two of you broke up. Doing this little exercise will help you find the clues for who is and isn’t your best type when it comes to finding the right man to share your life with.
The bonus of doing this is that once you stop limiting which types of men you will and won’t date, the possibilities open up and you have more available men to date than you previously thought possible.
Trend #4: Choosing A Man Based Solely On A List Of Qualities
It’s likely you have this imaginary list in your head of what a man must have to be the right one for you. You may be looking for qualities like body types, levels of fitness, specific jobs and salary requirements, just to name a few.
Yet a man may have every quality on your list and still be wrong for you. What you really want is to get a clear vision of how you want to feel around the man you want in your life. He may be the greatest thing since sliced bread but if you don’t feel good around him, you don’t belong in a relationship with him.
Trend #5: Not Having A Plan In Place For Meeting ‘The One’
Now that you have a better idea of who you want to share your life with, you’ll want to have a plan in place for how you’re going to meet that person. As a smart woman, you wouldn’t start a major project at work or in your home without a plan in place, and dating is no different.
Do you want to meet him in the real world? If so, you need to figure out where over 50’s singles congregate in your area, whether it’s classes, meet-ups, dog parks or local bars.
Online dating is another option and there are plenty of sites to explore that cater to people over 50. Almost every site allows you to browse profiles for free. This will give you an idea of who is on each site and whether it is a good fit for you.
Also, it’s a good idea to learn how to flirt with men both online and in the real world so that you now how to attract him once you see a man you are interested in meeting.
In the meantime, I hope you’ll let me know how these dating trends have been affecting your ability to meet quality men as a woman over 50.
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Hi Lisa,
I want to be cherished and taken care of but men see me as Alpha and quite capable of taking care of myself. I never had a choice as no man ever offered. I finally have met a beta male, who accepted me( good and bad) and doesn’t expect me to look like a trophy constantly. But he is not a provider in the sense that he seems to not have the drive and ambition. I want to live a five star life but he is a 3 star or less kind of guy. He nourishes my soul but could not support us if something happened to me. Unless I lower my standards. I like that I don’t have to put on airs but am concerned that he just isn’t my match! Goodness knows, he cherishes me and would be there in hard times. Why am I waffling! Is that worth more than the mortgage?
RJ
RJ….why do you consider this man to be only 3 stars? Is it because he doesn’t bring in the money? It’s important to get clear on what you really want in a man. When you list qualities is money number 1 or is being loved and cherished for who you are the most important to you? Our society has taught us money is it but money doesn’t buy many of the things you seem to have with this man. If you love him and he loves you and if your relationship works the way it is, he’s probably a keeper once you can accept that he’s not the main provider.