4 Ways To Make The First Move (Without Really Making The First Move)

Because it helps to have different perspectives on dating, I occasionally ask colleagues to guest post on my blog. This post comes from Liz at the dating site, We Love Dates Mature. I love her advice on getting out there and getting noticed by the men you want to date. 

Also, I’ll be live tomorrow night on Affairs Of Your Heart Radio. Listen live at  www.affairsofyourheart.com on Tuesday at 7:00 PM EDT. 

Enjoy!

~Lisa

Now more than ever, traditional dating rules are getting tossed out the window and are being replaced by, well, no rules at all! One of the most common rules that women have been told is that it’s best to wait for the man to make the first move. Women have been taught to sit by the phone and wait for a man to call, in hopes that they will not seem too needy or insecure. But why spend time waiting when you could be an active participant in your dating life? While I’m not suggesting that women should throw themselves at men – here are 4 under the radar ways for women to make the first move when mature dating.

1. Go where the men are.

Spending time with your girlfriends or with family members is lovely – and necessary – but in order to give a man the opportunity to notice you and subsequently ask you out, he has to be able to find you! Step outside your comfort zone and join a meet-up group based on your interests, get involved in your church or community or simply spend as much time out of the house as possible! And don’t forget signing up for an online dating site, of course!

2. Use your network.

Whether it’s your circle of friends, coworkers or neighbors, if you let your social network become aware that you are single and hoping to meet someone special, they can help you on your search!  There is no shame in expressing your desire for love. Who knows, they might have a friend or coworker who is looking for the same thing, and it may be a perfect fit!

3. Initiate the conversation.

If you’re at a restaurant, grocery store or just about anywhere where there are members of the opposite sex and lock eyes with a man you’d like to talk to, why not say hello? Ask them a question, make a silly joke, or simply give a compliment. Chances are he is not going to think you are a desperate woman, in fact he will most likely be over the moon that you approached him in the first place. It is nerve-racking to approach a stranger in public, but don’t let fear of rejection hold you back. A simple “hello” can change everything.

4. Smile.

If you simply aren’t comfortable with making the first move in the traditional sense, there are still plenty of ways to encourage desirable men to approach you. One of the most simple and important ways is to smile and make sure that you always look approachable. Men aren’t immune from getting nervous before approaching a woman they find attractive, so boost his confidence by showing him – without telling him – that you can’t wait to get to know him better.

Have you ever made the first move on a man?

Liz is the social media manager at We Love Dates Mature. We Love Dates Mature is a worldwide online dating site for women over fifty. It’s free to join the site, and completely risk-free, offering women over fifty the chance to meet the man of their dreams! For more dating tips, advice and support, visit their blog which I often write for, full of mature dating tips and advice.

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