You are absolutely right. If a man talks about how he cheated on someone, he most likely WILL cheat on you. However you missed one aspect. If the man readily gives up this info, he is one of two things. He either is conning you, as he zeroed in on you for his next Ms. Right Now, or he’s too dumb to realize what he just said. Either way, turn around and don’t look back.
My next comment is for you Lisa. Dating is NOT a game! You talk about women over 50 getting hurt. Well women (and men), of all age brackets, get hurt. One reason is they approach dating as a game. Love may be the most powerful emotion we have. Countless books, movies, songs of how to find love, and what do with it once you do have been written. Sadly it’s not always rational and yes you can easily talk yourself out of it. One size does not fit all. One suggestion is just write down as many qualities that you find desirable in a man. Then write down what you DON’T find desirable. (That’s probably easier). Now write down the various men you’ve had relationships with. (Not necessarily sexual.) What were their good/bad points? Are they on your list? What are absolute deal breakers? What won’t you tolerate under any circumstances? Then there are traits you can overlook, if other qualities are there. However if you approach dating as a game, you will lose.
June 11, 2020 at 2:25 pm
Lisa
Great thoughts Jack. So appreciate you sharing. How is your dating life going?
June 4, 2020 at 7:01 am
Stephanie
Thank you Lisa, your insight always seems to arrive at the perfect time.
June 4, 2020 at 1:18 pm
Lisa
So glad this was helpful to you Stephanie. Big hugs~
June 6, 2020 at 10:16 am
jack levin
You are absolutely right. If a man talks about how he cheated on someone, he most likely WILL cheat on you. However you missed one aspect. If the man readily gives up this info, he is one of two things. He either is conning you, as he zeroed in on you for his next Ms. Right Now, or he’s too dumb to realize what he just said. Either way, turn around and don’t look back.
My next comment is for you Lisa. Dating is NOT a game! You talk about women over 50 getting hurt. Well women (and men), of all age brackets, get hurt. One reason is they approach dating as a game. Love may be the most powerful emotion we have. Countless books, movies, songs of how to find love, and what do with it once you do have been written. Sadly it’s not always rational and yes you can easily talk yourself out of it. One size does not fit all. One suggestion is just write down as many qualities that you find desirable in a man. Then write down what you DON’T find desirable. (That’s probably easier). Now write down the various men you’ve had relationships with. (Not necessarily sexual.) What were their good/bad points? Are they on your list? What are absolute deal breakers? What won’t you tolerate under any circumstances? Then there are traits you can overlook, if other qualities are there. However if you approach dating as a game, you will lose.
June 11, 2020 at 2:25 pm
Lisa
Great thoughts Jack. So appreciate you sharing. How is your dating life going?
June 4, 2020 at 7:01 am
Stephanie
Thank you Lisa, your insight always seems to arrive at the perfect time.
June 4, 2020 at 1:18 pm
Lisa
So glad this was helpful to you Stephanie. Big hugs~