There’s a lot of great advice here. Thanks for that.
I am, however, disturbed by the use of Scarlett O’Hara as any kind of example of how to act with men. She was selfish, conniving and manipulative and didn’t care who she destroyed to get what she wanted. And she certainly did not recognize the quality man she had in Rhett Butler!
Just saying
January 12, 2016 at 8:57 am
Lisa
You are right about Scarlett O’Hara’s behavior. That being said, if you watch the very beginning of the movie where she hasn’t gotten to the height of selfishness and an unawareness of who is and isn’t good for her, you will see she is amazing at flirting and making men her hero. Today many woman still can’t see the man who is good for them and they continue to go after a fantasy like Scarlett did. Thank you for your insights Janet.
Hi
Your plans all sound wonderful! I enjoy reading them very much. Here is my problem. I am not photogenic, horrible pic’s always. I am average looking but I need a pic to pop right?! Often, online, I get no responses on sites like POF, when I post an ad on CL same thing. I am an excellent writer so I get lots of replies to my posts, but the picture thing……
I am unemployed, really have no friends or network who share single men they may know, that seems to be my job for them. Or $ for a professional at $150 for 45 min.
I am feeling so disillusioned. I have nice clothes, I don’t know if I look good in any. I don’t know how to flirt, if I am attracted. This has always been my problem, I am shy.
I am not sure what I am asking but, most of your solutions seem unobtainable to me.
I was alone for 15 years after divorce and did fine alone. I started dating 3 years ago, had a relationship with a man for 2 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago due to lies and secrets. My fault really as I knew something was wrong, never meeting his kids after 2 years. Now, I can’t handle being alone for the first time in my life. I am stuck and have not met one man who I even want to see again. It seems mutual for them as well.
Any suggestions?
Thank you again for your wonderful articles! I appreciate your wonderful expertise!
Sincerely,
Patricia
January 12, 2016 at 9:05 am
Lisa
Hi Patricia
I’m sorry dating is such a struggle for you at this time. I’m glad that my articles are helping you. In the Law of Attraction, there is a saying that goes…What We Focus On Is What We Get. Start focusing on what you want versus what you don’t have or think you can’t do. I’d recommend doing a vision board of what you want over the next 5 years. It will give you clarity in following your dreams. And it will help you take the next steps for making them come true. Best of luck on your journey Patricia. Lots of hugs~
January 12, 2016 at 8:50 am
Janet
There’s a lot of great advice here. Thanks for that.
I am, however, disturbed by the use of Scarlett O’Hara as any kind of example of how to act with men. She was selfish, conniving and manipulative and didn’t care who she destroyed to get what she wanted. And she certainly did not recognize the quality man she had in Rhett Butler!
Just saying
January 12, 2016 at 8:57 am
Lisa
You are right about Scarlett O’Hara’s behavior. That being said, if you watch the very beginning of the movie where she hasn’t gotten to the height of selfishness and an unawareness of who is and isn’t good for her, you will see she is amazing at flirting and making men her hero. Today many woman still can’t see the man who is good for them and they continue to go after a fantasy like Scarlett did. Thank you for your insights Janet.
January 11, 2016 at 5:38 pm
Patrica
Hi
Your plans all sound wonderful! I enjoy reading them very much. Here is my problem. I am not photogenic, horrible pic’s always. I am average looking but I need a pic to pop right?! Often, online, I get no responses on sites like POF, when I post an ad on CL same thing. I am an excellent writer so I get lots of replies to my posts, but the picture thing……
I am unemployed, really have no friends or network who share single men they may know, that seems to be my job for them. Or $ for a professional at $150 for 45 min.
I am feeling so disillusioned. I have nice clothes, I don’t know if I look good in any. I don’t know how to flirt, if I am attracted. This has always been my problem, I am shy.
I am not sure what I am asking but, most of your solutions seem unobtainable to me.
I was alone for 15 years after divorce and did fine alone. I started dating 3 years ago, had a relationship with a man for 2 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago due to lies and secrets. My fault really as I knew something was wrong, never meeting his kids after 2 years. Now, I can’t handle being alone for the first time in my life. I am stuck and have not met one man who I even want to see again. It seems mutual for them as well.
Any suggestions?
Thank you again for your wonderful articles! I appreciate your wonderful expertise!
Sincerely,
Patricia
January 12, 2016 at 9:05 am
Lisa
Hi Patricia
I’m sorry dating is such a struggle for you at this time. I’m glad that my articles are helping you. In the Law of Attraction, there is a saying that goes…What We Focus On Is What We Get. Start focusing on what you want versus what you don’t have or think you can’t do. I’d recommend doing a vision board of what you want over the next 5 years. It will give you clarity in following your dreams. And it will help you take the next steps for making them come true. Best of luck on your journey Patricia. Lots of hugs~