3 reasons why Bad Boys don’t make good boyfriends
Everyone loves a Bad Boy.
Yet most of them make terrible boyfriends.
Why?
#1 . . . He makes you feel alive inside and that’s part of why you’re so wildly attracted to him.
That’s because Bad Boys have this innate understanding of women.
They know exactly what to say that makes you literally fall head over heels for them.
A Bad Boy is the kind of man who’ll tell you things like they broke the mold when they made you.
Or there’s no one else he can trust to share his deepest thoughts with other than you.
#2 . . . The chemistry with a Bad Boy is off the charts but . . .
Bad Boys are fun and the language they speak can create hot explosive chemistry between the two of you.
But, his words are rarely followed up with action.
It’s why he can tell you on Saturday night that he loves you yet Sunday morning, he’s disappeared.
#3 . . . A Bad Boy can’t make a commitment to you or any other woman.
He loves going after the prize and that is the one woman he wants and desires IN THE MOMENT.
He’ll do what it takes to get you into his life.
Sadly, once the chase is over, he tires of you and starts the hunt for someone new.
The chase, his words, and his charm are what make you fall in love with him and when he stops all contact, it breaks your heart.
What’s even worse is a Bad Boy can come back to you when he’s between relationships telling you how much he’s missed you.
And guess what happens . . . you fall in love with him all over again thinking he’s back for good this time.
But he’s not.
He just doesn’t want to be alone while he’s looking for his next conquest.
A Bad Boy will continue to come in and out of your life until you set a boundary and decide you’ve had enough with having your heartbroken and you want to put a stop to this heartbreaking cycle.
This is what happened to my client Cindi who was going through her 2nd divorce when her high school boyfriend popped back into her life.
They didn’t live in the same city, but that didn’t stop them from spending every night on the phone talking for hours.
Cindi’s old boyfriend would paint romantic scenarios telling her how he never stopped loving her and how he, unlike her second husband would have put her on a pedestal and never let her go if they’d been together.
Listening to his words, she found herself falling in love.
Then, out of nowhere, the phone calls stopped and he vanished.
Her heart was broken.
She tried texting and calling to see if he was ok but he would ignore her attempts to reach out to him.
She began second-guessing herself wondering what she’d done to chase him away.
Cindi had done nothing wrong.
Her Bad Boy was just moving onto his next conquest.
Then one day out of the blue, he called her.
She later told me how excited she felt when she heard his voice again.
His hollow words pulled her right back in, thinking this would be the time he’d stay.
Did he? Of course not!
It was only a matter of time before he vanished again.
This cycle happened over and over again until she realized she’d had enough.
That’s when she came to me.
She’d decided it was time to attract a man into her life who would capture her heart and do everything in his power to keep it.
Together we created a Quality Man Template also known as a QMT.
This is a tool that helps you get a clear vision of the right man for you.
It starts with getting clarity on your old type, it’s likely you’ll keep attracting the wrong type of man over and over again if you don’t do this step. (Something Cyndi realized about Bad Boys when she created her QMT. Turns out her high school flame was one of the many Bad Boys she’d been attracting into her life for years)
Next, you want to do a deep dive into what in a man is going to make you happy.
What do you really want NOW at this time in your life versus when you were 20? (Which by the way is often how women choose men….from the qualities and deal-breakers they used when they were much younger.)
When you have a clear vision of who you want, it opens the possibilities for seeing men you might have passed over who are actually a good match for you.
This is one of the reasons women get so frustrated with matchmakers.
He or She can see the possibilities for you but you can’t because you’re still looking for your old type.
It’s also why you might have a hard time seeing men online who could be a great match as well.
Here’s what I mean . . .
My client Mindy is now happily in a 7-month relationship with a man that is different than any man she ever dated since her divorce. The reason why? He checks all of the boxes on her Quality Man Template!!!
Maryanne would have passed up her guy if she hadn’t had a Quality Man Template. Today she is happily in a successful relationship and feels like her QMT helped her finally chose the right man to share her life with.
Audrey was always attracting the wrong type of men who never wanted to commit to a relationship. Her QMT made her realize what she needed to focus on to get what she wanted, a good committed man in her life. She met a caring man who shared her values and had the biggest loving heart. And most importantly, he fit everything on her Quality Man Template.
Allison met a really great guy and is having the time of her life. She felt like her Quality Man Template told the universe precisely what she wanted and bam! He appeared.
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