3 Huge Mistakes That Keep You From Finding Love after 50
Mistake #1 . . . A self – defeating dating attitude about you
How many times a day do you spend time criticizing yourself as if its the most normal thing in the world.
Maybe you say something, “My butt looks too big in these pants,” or “I should really lose ten pounds,” or “My neck is awful?”
Doing this to yourself every day – dozens of times a day – takes a toll on your psyche.
You start believing the story you are telling yourself about how flawed you are, instead of how truly awesome you are as a woman over 50.
To shift this perspective about yourself, look in the mirror and play what I call the 3 to 1 game.
for every one negative quality, you tell yourself, tell yourself 3 qualities you love about yourself.
This is a huge game changer for shifting your beliefs about you.
Now I want to fill you in on a little secret… men don’t pick you apart the way you do.
If they are attracted to you (and men are attracted to all types of women) then they have the ability to love the whole you and accept you just as beautiful as you are.
The real question is… can you?
#2 . . . Holding onto Limiting Dating Beliefs about available men
Most women believe what makes a Quality Man is his ability to swoop her off her feet, wine and dine her at the best restaurants around town and give her presents and a very wealthy lifestyle.
Now, I want to share another secret with you.
Money alone does not make a Quality Man. How a man treats you and how you feel around a man is far more important.
An example of this: I have a former client who is very successful professionally.
She found herself madly in love with a man who is a male nurse.
They have an amazing relationship and she feels she got the best guy in the world because he makes her feel absolutely loved, cherished and adored.
Note those feelings have nothing to do with money or the fact that she out-earns him.
Many professional women would have turned their noses up over this type of man, declaring anyone less than a doctor, lawyer or accountant wouldn’t qualify as a Quality Man in their eyes.
Lots of men are online who are good men and want nothing more than to make you happy.
It’s worth giving them a chance.
Mistake #3 . . . Keeping your heart closed to love
You’re probably tired of living life alone and you’d like to have a good man to share your life with.right?
You can probably even visualize who this man might be and how your relationship might look.
Yet is your heart really open to allowing a great man to walk into your life?
One of the scariest times for my private clients comes when it’s time to date.
I’ve seen women who told me they desperately wanted a man in their life suddenly want to quit dating. Why?
Because letting someone into your heart again is SCARY especially if you’ve been hurt in the past.
One of the quickest ways to open your heart again to love is by appreciating everything in your life especially you.
Self-love helps you feel empowered and good about who you are and that’s what ultimately leads to attracting and keeping a good man in your life.
I’d love to hear what’s been holding you back and what you’re ready to give up to find love in your life.
Believing in You!
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50
#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon
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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program
I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.
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Hi, really need some help with this. I have no children, in my 50’s, and the thing I struggle with is what is reasonable to expect from a man in terms of him wanting to share his resources with me, take care of me, however you want to define it when a man is in love with you, if he has children? What does this look like if we get married? I see NO advice on this topic (money and estate matters when one person has no children and the other does) and how to navigate it. Is it reasonable to expect that if we were married I would inherit part of his estate? Please don’t think I’m a gold digger; I’m not, but these are real world, practical issues! Help! Thank you.
I’m sorry Alison. This is not an area that I’ve had enough experience in. You might want to speak with a financial planner who could guide you better in this. Hugs~
Evidently I lack self love. I am twice widowed and now dating man who treats me like I’m a princess, wants to take care of me. Is gentle and kind. I want to love him and be with him but something is lacking. He says I have to love myself before I can love somebody else. I guess he’s pretty smart. I have never thought of myself as not loving myself. So, how do I fix this?
Hi Jackie…I remember a time when my own self confidence was lacking and it blocked me from getting the love I wanted with a man. I was blessed to have a coach come into my life who helped me rediscover me and how lovable I really am. That totally turned my life and love life around. Today, I help women overcome exactly what I went through from feeling less than to an inner knowing that I’m amazing and worth whatever my dreams are. If you feel like talking with me one on one would be helpful, please reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com and we’ll find a way to connect. Lots of hugs~